In contrast, it is useful to analyze the situation of people who are stuck, both monetarily and in spirit, if only to allow you to avoid these errors. This is based on my experience of two decades of dealing with both winnèrs and temporary losers in the game of life.
1. They are frightened. Their lives are dominated by fear. They see the world as a scary, threatening place and crave security, dullness, mediocrity. They long for every day to be the same as the last and become scared and upset if even a small change breaks the monotony of their days.
2. They completely lack visualization ability. If asked to visualize their future self, they would stare at you blankly. They are not pretending. They do not even understand what you mean by this exercise. If you force them to try, they’ll come back with nothing more than a shrug.
3. Assuming that you could drag some sort of dream out of them (for example wanting to be worth a million dollars some day) then they would be wholly incapable of working backwards from that point to the present, and suggesting actions they might have to take in order to make this come about. Again, they are not faking. There is now; there is the future; and in between, a yawning, fathomless chasm – a blank.
4. Even if you were to write the steps out, 1-100, with a check box next to each one, they absolutely lack the discipline even to start on the task, let alone complete the steps. At the first slight downfall, or negative comment from a friènd, they will give up. In any situation which requires a choice between working for a better future, and instant gratification now, they will unfailingly choose instant gratification.
But this is not you, hopefully. If you recognize yourself here, then don’t worry because it is possible to change and get out of this ‘stuck’ pattern you are in.
You need to develop the habits of a winnèr. You want to enjoy today, but have an even better tomorrow waiting for you.
To do this you must model yourself on winnèrs – people who have achieved great things in their lives. I am talking here about ‘winnèrs’ and ‘losers’ but I do not mean the term ‘loser’ in the usual derogatory sense.
By a ‘loser’ I mean someone who, by their own definition of winn*ng and losing, is falling well short of where they want to be. By a ‘winnèr’ I mean someone who, by their own definition of winn*ng and losing, is pulling ahead of the game and achieving that which they set out to achieve.
This is how a winner operates:
1. They are brave. Like all human beings they feel fear, but have mastered it and are able to rise above it. Whilst they acknowledge that there are frightening people and places in the world, in general they view the world as a benevolent place, full of great opportunities and wonderful people. This is a vital principle. Winnèrs view the world as mainly benevolent with some bad bits. Losers see the world as mainly malevolent with some good bits.
2. They are good visualizers. They have the ability to imagine the future, often in glorious Technicolor detail. They have high self-esteem, and know that they are worth more than they have at present. Life to them is an exciting adventure to be lived to the full. In contrast, losers view life as a terrible chore to be somehow ‘got through’ with as little pain as possible.
3. They are intelligent, rational and logical. If they have a dream of the future, they know the secret technique for making this happen. Today’s dreams are tomorrow’s realities. They know that large projects cannot be tackled by finite human minds unless they are broken down into manageable, bite-sized pieces. They are able to work backwards from a future dream to the present day, and to list the logical steps required to make that dream come true.
4. Having written down the steps required to achieve their goals, they know what is required next. Action. Up until this point, all of their plans amount to little more than ethereal hòt air. It is action which grounds the circuit and allows the current to flow. They know that the journey will be long and hard. Any worthwhile dream will involve hard work, concentrated effort and some suffering to attain. They need one more quality. Discipline. This keeps them going during setbacks, when the list seems too long, and when others heap mirth and derision upon their efforts.
Stuart Goldsmith is a British multimilliònaire author and lecturer. He created a 16 million fortune starting from a position of heavy debt, and has taught thousands of others how to get wealthy. Discover how his brèakthrough power strategies can help you achieve your specific goals/dreams. If you want to join among those people who succeed getting rich, you can learn the exact way to get rich at http://tinyurl.com/best-for-2010-riches
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